A wisdom Zen quote on problems with relationships by Thich Nhat Hanh



“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you
don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not
doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or
less sun. You never blame the lettuce.

Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other
person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will
grow well, like the lettuce.

Blaming has no positive
effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason
and argument. That is my experience.

No blame, no
reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you
understand, and you show that you understand, you can
love, and the situation will change”

Thich Nhat Hanh

6 Comments Add yours

  1. A wonderful analogy and yes we never argue if the plant is not growing well then why blame others for our wrong doings. Very nicely said by Thich Nhat.

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    1. Thank you dear Kamal. Yes sometimes it’s hard to do, we have to let go of our need to “be right”, and just be happy 🙂


      1. You are always welcome dear Amira. 😊😊😊😊😊

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  2. Anita Bowden says:

    I have always been so inspired by the work of Thich Nhat Hanh. ❤ He has a way of explaining things so clearly, and going right to the heart of the matter! Thank you for this post, dear Amira! 🙂

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    1. Hi dear Anita: Thank you! Yes, I like his teachings as well, he makes things simpler to grasp, although not always easy to put into practice 😉

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      1. Anita Bowden says:

        I quite agree! 🙂

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