Dear Mummy and Daddy,
No matter what happens between us, during my childhood I will love you unconditionally.
You are my guide, my support, my lifetime anchor…
for whatever becomes of me depends on our time together.
From you I will learn what love is. I will learn to be confident or shy, giving or selfish, loving or cruel.
I will learn what is right and wrong, who I should respect and whether I should love and respect myself.
As I come into this world, into your tender care, I am a pure, clean sponge. I will soak up every look, every touch, every thought, every word, every feeling and they will mould me into the person that I will become.
So in the days, weeks, months and years ahead – please remember that – every thought, feeling, word, touch, and look… I will absorb.
If you treat me with love, caring, respect, tolerance, forgiveness and understanding – even when I do things wrong – then I will grow up into a kind, considerate, confident, loving, responsible, happy child and adult.
But if you treat me with intolerance, uncaring, harshness, words of anger and neglect…
I will be… sad.
Trina Graves – 22nd December 1997
Posted with permission from the author
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